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April 21, 2005

Bugs

The latest disappointing news for Bugs has reminded me all over again of the spectacular unfairness of infertility- if not for me, then for people I like and care about. Bugs is genuinely one of the nicest people I have ever met online- first on a message board and then later in her beautifully written blog. All day I have felt a heavy weight around my heart that things haven't turned out better for her and her husband.

I think it is truly difficult, if you spend any amount of time on the Island, to remain untouched by the stories of others. For someone like me who has been unable to make much headway for the last year, it's been a lifeline to experience progress vicariously through another person. Unfortunately, the downside of that can be twofold. You eventually either get left behind, kicking your heels in the sand and wondering if your own ship will ever come in, or else you feel cut to the core alongside your comrades when the bottom drops out of their world.

It's at times like these that I realise that we're all not only stranded on an island, but an island with a sprawling jungle. A jungle with a dark interior, and things that stir in the shadows, with sharp teeth and claws.

I'm so sorry, Bugs.

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Do you have any idea what happened to her blog? it's gone - is she oK?

Once again, you've said what needed to be said and what so many people are feeling. Thank you.

Yep.

*sigh*

xxoo

I think Blogger may have been down for awhile- I checked just now and her blog is still there.

Sigh. I know. I felt the same way.

Sweet, sweet Mare, thank you for this kind and beautiful post. I am glad to have such wonderful company on this godforsaken island.

--Bugs

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